Well, after a 20 year marriage during which my ex beat our handicapped kid with a leather belt, I got custody. However, when my ex had my son circumsized, took him offf island without my ok, didn't pay his 1/2 the rents, had me kicked out, I lost every penny, while he gets 5 acres, 7 houses, and all the proceeds from the house sale. He spent 2 months ripping out the solid oak floors, removing privacy walls, anything to "erase" me, and the new owners just spent $200,000 to fix the real problems. Tanaka said my work was "subpar", but my ex, a licensed contractor didn't fix the broken fireplace, the faulty electri, the plumbing, etc. Instead of draining the cesspool he'd built under the sidewalk, he just repaved it so we had to pay an extra $17,000 for septic. All four of the property lines were interfered with. This is a man who built his house on the neighbors side of the 5 acres, and had to move it. when he did, it fell down and knocked down three other buildings. So, who's sub par here? He owe me $49,000 in receipts, not counting labor, and I'm the one who lost every penny. I heard more lies in 15 minutes than I'd heard since Bush and Cheney were in charge. Penniless and homeless after 20 years of marriage and yes I worked outside of the home. Judge Tanka is either dense or hates women.